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Focus on helping @5 see how the target '
behavior is helping @1 . '
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Children like things that work or do something. '
But, they often forget something that works in '
the background and they become complacent. You '
can help @1 recall and reaffirm how a behavior '
works by bringing it from the background to the '
foreground. Do this by noticing the behavior '
and its impact. '
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MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR '
'
Children like the feeling of competence, of do- '
ing something well that is useful. If a child '
forgets the purpose that a particular behavior '
serves, the adults can reaffirm its purpose. '
'
Ask yourself: '
* Can I think of ways in which the target '
behavior is serving a useful purpose for '
@5? '
* Can I think of ways to highlight the '
usefulness of the behavior? '
* Can I find ways to make the behavior even '
more important than it was? '
MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR '
'
Very young children are just beginning to get a '
sense of what works for them and what does not. '
A caretaker who says no verbally and SHOWS mild '
displeasure when something undesirable happens '
and says yes verbally and SHOWS major pleasure '
when the desirable happens will help @5 '
to acquire that sense. '
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Try: '
* Saying no or showing MILD displeasure, '
then showing @1 the right way. '
* Saying yes and then showing MAJOR pleasure '
when the behavior happens. '
MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR '
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Children of this age love the notion of control.'
Use your superior intellect and control to fool '
@1 into thinking that they have it. Put what '
@3 wants in terms of what you want. '
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Try: '
* Taking @2 desires and saying, " When you '
do it, then you can..." or "I will..." '
* Making what you want consistent with @2 '
choice when @3 challenges you. For ex- '
ample, say "You can go to bed now or ten '
minutes from now." Then point out what '
@3 chose and hold @1 to it. '
MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR '
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Children like the feeling of having what they do'
have an impact on you. When they do something '
right, you should respond positively. When the '
behavior is not there, then you do not respond. '
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Try: '
* Coming up with something to do when '
@5 shows the target behavior. '
* Making what you do directly contingent '
on what @3 does. '
* Being consistent with your response. If '
@5 does it, then you do what you have '
said. If @3 doesn't, then you don't. '
MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR '
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Children of this age like to make a difference '
and to feel powerful. Having you respond pre- '
dictably when they do something gives them a '
sense of making this type of difference. '
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Try: '
* Thinking of something that you can do for '
@5 when @3 shows the desired '
behavior. '
* Letting @5 know what you have '
decided to do for @1 when @3 does it. '
* Letting @1 know that behaving in that '
way will get @1 what you decided on. '
MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR '
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Adolescents like the idea of being treated as an'
adult. They like the notion of doing something '
that makes a positive difference even though '
they are not so hot on having the negative side '
of the equation enforced. '
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Try: '
* Showing appreciation when @3 does the '
target behavior and then demonstrating how '
this appreciation is translated into action'
on your part. '
* Having them experience the loss of respect '
when the target behavior does not occur. '
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